|From the desk of Freddie L. Sirmans, Sr. July 16, 2005
I. Why a nice, polite, normal unsuspecting individual
may turns out to be a suicide bomber?
I decided to weigh in and try to shine some light on this subject. The human mind is far too
complex for anyone to predict one hundred percent what a person will do in any given
situation. But, there are profiles that can be very useful to a high degree. I'm not any kind of
expert or sort, I'm just a writer with a lot of common sense. I've noticed one key word that is
always present in people that commit terrible and heinous crimes.
That word is unforgiveness. The words forgiveness and unforgiveness may seem like just
any two simple words but they are not. The ability to forgive is the only thing that will defuse
the negative emotions in our character. The negative emotions in our character such as
anger, jealousy, spite envy, hate, and revenge can only be defused with the ability to forgive.
Look at domestic abuse cases, one will kill and then kill himself.
Ones religion or culture is not the cause, the cause is unforgiveness fueled by ideology,
jealousy, spite, hate, envy, or revenge. Remember all behavior is learned one way or another.
I believe we all have surface beliefs and deep or strong beliefs. I believe beliefs and memory
works hand in hand. We all know that data that is not stored in our long term memory is soon
I think it is the same way with our beliefs, in order for something to become a deep and strong
belief it must be repeated over and over long enough to be instilled in long term memory.
Then it will become an almost unshakable belief. Almost every family knows that common
sense, love, and tough talk will not get through to a stray family member unless that member
wants to change. Most western cultures teach their young tolerance, acceptance, and
forgiveness toward other races, religions, and cultures.
But, some other cultures tend to teach their young more of a tribal or clannish type of
behavior. Today when you see a nice polite normal individual that turned out to be a suicide
bomber, everyone is shocked and so surprised, but, remember that individual already had a
lack of trust and forgiveness for outsiders. Lacking trust and forgiveness for outsiders alone
will not make one a suicide bomber, but it does leave one more vulnerable to idealogs.
Then, all a idealog has to do is fuel that lack of trust and forgiveness by blaming over and
over all of that individuals short comings on outsiders and exploiting that individuals envy,
spite, anger, jealousy, or hate to demand his sense of justice and revenge. Those with strong
radical views don't get them overnight. But a new positive out look can be relearned, it just
takes a long time.
It may take six month to a year but any quote repeated over and over will eventually change
behavior. If one want to gain the ability to forgive, just repeat over and over to ones self fifty
and more times each day, "I can forgive anything or anybody, or I can wish all people
goodwill no matter how they treat me."